A Tip On: Is it ADHD or Not?

Problem: You think you might have ADD

Goal: Figure out if you have ADD or not

Tip: Take this quick quiz:

  • Do you lose or misplace things you need?
  • Do you forget or are you late for appointments?
  • Do you not listen when people talk to you or have to ask them to repeat?
  • Do you put things off until the last minute?
  • Are you easily distracted?
  • Are you restless, fidgety, doodling, tapping, etc.?
  • Are you great at starting, but not finishing things?
  • Did your mind wander while taking this quiz?

If you answered yes to most of these questions, and it seems you’ve always been like this, consider having an evaluation for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

A Tip On: Handling Alcohol

Problem: You think you might be drinking too much

Goal: Figure out if I have a drinking problem.

Tip: Take this quick quiz

  • Do you struggle to stop after 1 or 2 drinks?
  • Has drinking caused a problem in any relationships?
  • Has family or friends been concerned about your drinking?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should make an effort to cut down or stop.

If you have difficulty, seek professional help.

A Tip On: Handling Anger!

Problem: Our Assumptions fuel our anger.

Example: “That car cut me off! What a jerk! “Who does he think he is?!”

Goal: Train yourself to check out your assumptions

Tip: Consider…

  • The Situation that “made” you angry.
  • The Assumption you created about it.
  • Possible Replacement Explanations. “His wife’s in labor & he’s rushing to the hospital.”

Notice: Your anger just became more manageable.

A Tip On: Making an Intimate Apology

Problem: Brief apologies to your loved one are better than nothing, but miss the opportunity for greater intimacy.

Goal: Try an “Intimate Apology” for a surge in closeness.

Tip:

  • Describe your offense
  • Acknowledge your partner’s distress
  • Using vulnerability and awareness, explain what contributed to your reaction (and make no excuses)
  • Make amends and say how you’ll behave in the future

Note: A sincere apology is an act of love itself.

A Tip On: Handling Conflicts With Back-Talking Teens!

Problem: It’s shocking how rude normal teens can be. We can tend to over-respond (yelling back or punishing) or under-respond (ignoring). Their rudeness will escalate either way.

Goal: Restore civility.

Tip:

  • Take a deep breath
  • Count to 10
  • Adjust your tone to neutral, and say: “That was not an acceptable way to speak to me. When you’re ready to talk respectfully about this, let me know.”
  • Be available later

A Tip On: Handling Feeling Overwhelmed

Problem: Stress & helplessness magnify to unproductive levels when we see all of our problems as top priority & unchangeable.

Goals:Regain perspective, focus & energy by using this sorting task:

Tip:

  1. Make 4 boxes on a piece of paper:
  2. Write each of your stresses into the appropriate box.
  3. Use your energy for problem-solving the top-left boxful.

Notice: Your life feels more balanced and you feel more in charge.

A Tip On: Handling Work Stress & Preventing Burnout!

Problem: The demand to produce at consistently high levels.

Goal: Recharge your batteries and feel more in control.

Tip:

  • Alternate preferred and less-preferred tasks
  • Schedule demanding tasks for your high-energy times of day
  • Take brief time-outs to clear your head
  • Pick leisure activities that are very different from your job

Tips On: Combating Frustration

Problem: Beliefs and Wants can be unrealistic.

Goal: Improve your frustration tolerance and resilience.

Tip: Re-label unrealistic expectations & beliefs:

  • Unhelpful thought: “It’s awful!” Re-labeled thought:“It’s inconvenient.”
  • Unhelpful thought: “It shouldn’t be so hard” Re-labeled thought: “It’s hard; why should the world be easier?”
  • Unhelpful thought: “I can’t stand this!” Re-labeled thought: “I don’t like it, but I can stand it.”

Note: You are actually more resilient than you thought.

A Tip On: Handling Homework & Organizational Problems

Problem: Organizationally-challenged kids need particular homework assistance.

Goals:

  • Homework gets done
  • Your child feels good
  • You cooperate instead of struggle
  • You’re less angry

Tip:

  • Plan out the week ahead of time.
  • Break homework tasks into small components.
  • Anticipate frustration & plan to take short breaks.
  • Verbalize homework answers & organize aloud before writing.

Tips On: Handling Less Daylight

Problem: With the Fall season comes

  • a decline of daylight hours
  • cold and inclement weather
  • increased demands of work, school and family
  • the sometimes negative effects of all of these on mood

Goal: Maintain a positive mood.

Tip:

  • If you can do just one thing: Exercise.
  • Spend time outside daily, even briefly.
  • Schedule breaks from chores for fun or relaxation
  • Reminder to yourself daily of what you appreciate in your life.

Note: If low mood persists and/or repeats yearly, consult your doctor or a mental health professional.